I realize that it cannot be a simple task, for a single, self-employed, fifty-something-year-old woman, living during a recession, in a small town in a northwestern, “wilderness” state, to start two new businesses with individually linked online stores, Facebook pages and Blogs . . . with a capital of . . . well . . . no capital. The challenges are monumental. The days are long, long, long. Paperwork is all over the place. The stress-inducing details endlessly scream out to be handled, “Me first,” “Noooo me,” “I’m a priorty,”
In the face of life choices, like mine, one must simply continue to move forward, put one foot in front of the other, remembering that it’s the baby steps that will get one there. Gotta continue to believe, hope and progress. And . . . I’m good with that. I’m willing to do what it takes to make a unique mark on my own life, subsequently the lives of others. I’m accepting of the hard work, the challenge, the stress, the uncertainty . . . the edge. However, I am stating for the record that . . . last week sucked MAJORLY.
I’ve been ruminating all of the details of last week . . . It’s my way . . . spinning it all around in my head, looking at it this way, that way, the other way, under it, over it, etc. . . living in a mental state of impossible resolution until eventually, I succumb to the reality that I must look . . . right through it. I find my balance, shift my thinking and emerge somewhere in my-own-perception of . . . the middle. The longer I live on this earth, the more quickly I am able to do this.
I woke up this morning finding myself noticeably closer to the middle enough to ask my-own-self, “How’d you do that?” How did I find my balance in such a relatively short amount of time?
1) Think as much as you need to, but while you’re thinking, remember to question each thought. Thoughts . . . they happen. They can be your best friend, or your worst enemy. A negative thought that is believed, becomes one’s reality. Believing the thought that it cannot be done, that it is an impossible task, that you don’t have what it takes, etc. . . . these thoughts can only bring you down. Continue to exercise a head-shift toward those thoughts that make you happy. After all, what feels better, a happy thought or a sad one?
One of my favorite reads, TUT Notes from the Universe (by Mike Dooley), reminds me daily that,
“Thoughts become things, so . . . choose the good ones.”
2) Excercise gratitude. It becomes increasingly difficult to curse the roadblocks, when one is busy counting and being thankful for all blessings.
3) Follow your joy. Do what you love ~ Love what you do. The moment I try to force myself to achieve something that I do not find joy in, I end up on the familiar dead-end street of resistance. Repeated trips to dead-end streets are the epitome of insanity. Eliminate resistance. Lower your insanity level. Follow your joy. Do what you love ~ Love what you do.
3) Shake hands with the moment. Just make friends with it. Be at peace with it. It is what it is. It is all you have. It is all you can bank on. The past is gone. The future is uncertain. This moment is your opportunity.
4) Imagine. It’s so fun to do. Write a screenplay of the life you desire in your head, let it drop to your heart and set yourself free. You are the star of your own movie. Make it a blockbuster.
5) Breathe. I struggle with this one. I have a tendency to hold my breath when I’m focusing. But everybody knows that the act of breathing centers us, brings us more fully into the moment and is an unparalleled force that is constantly at our disposal.
6) If possible, exercise acceptance that . . . EVERYTHING happens for a reason, and in its correct time, whether or not we readily understand the reason . . . or the timing. Don’t worry. All is as its s’posta be.
It is true that last week, the thought that crept in, was one of impossibility and ultimate defeat. It is also true, that I am back up. And you know . . . along the journey, success is not about the ability to be better’n somebody else, it’s about cultivating the personal power to be willing to get back up for purposes of becoming better’n you actually were a moment ago. I am. You can be too.
8) Primp. It amuses me how many parallels can be drawn between the words “primp” and “pimp.” Seems like the word “primp” is a feminine form (of sorts) of “pimp.” Examples ~ She’s been in the bathroom primping for hours. He’s out pimping his ride. I don’t know, I’m no master in language. I do, however, possess the talent to be a fairly gifted primper. I see primping as an act of caring for ourselves. Taking the extra time to decorate the exterior, does actually assist in my levels of confidence while mingling with fellow human beings. Taking a little time to primp also causes me to slow down and focus on the importance of caring for the body.
9) Put yourself out there. When I was a child in Sunday school, we all sang a song called “This Little Light of Mine.” The song talked about our Light and reminded us that our purpose was to illuminate. We can’t do that if we don’t show up to the party. In order to spread our light, we must step out and make a difference in the lives of others. Light illumination is not always a walk in the park. Be prepared to feel your way through the darkness at times.
10) Keep your eye on your own MIDDLE GROUND. We all visit the extremes from time-to-time, but it’s not prudent to move all your stuff in and live together. My friend Karen has reminded me that . . . “Any strength taken to an extreme, becomes a weakness.”
11) Accept Help. Nobody goes it alone. This past week an amazing number of people stepped up to the plate with the intention of taking a bit of the load off of me. They miraculously appeared in the form of trusted technical assistance, inspiration, encouragement and patience. Nobody goes it alone. Be willing to help ~ equally as important, accept help.
12) Give up the fight for perfectionism. Do your best and remind yourself that your best is enough.
Finally, commit to being continually willing and open to be inspired and to inspire others. Create. Share. Intend to make a profound positive difference in the lives of others. I do. You can too!
Inspiration: A feeling of enthusiasm you get from someone or something which gives you new and creative ideas.
Many Blessings ~
~Gerean